My dad has a lot of stories to tell. The best and most vivid of them are from his childhood. I guess that’s what comes of growing up in a large family in wartime London, and being evacuated for eighteen months to a farm in Cornwall. Of course, his ability to recall so many memories in such detail could also be the way his brain is wired. Whatever the cause, I am thankful for the effect. I love his stories.
No such rich source material for me. I grew up in our average-sized family in peacetime Kent and went nowhere without my parents until, aged eleven, I was prised away to join a week’s school trip to Dorset. I can recall very little detail from that week, but I know I was unhappy. The thing I don’t know is whether I was unhappy for ten minutes, ten hours or the whole five days. That’s the fickleness of memory.
I suspect one of the reasons I have so few stories to tell is the sheer uneventfulness of my childhood. Any memories I do have are like poorly taken photographs—fuzzy round the edges, but I can just about work out what’s going on in them—and mostly seem to involve mild pain or minor injury. Usually, I am the victim—falling on wet paving stones and cutting open my chin, stepping on a rusty nail, being hit in the face with a bat during some boisterous game—but, on occasion, it is someone else’s misfortune that comes to mind, like the time I thrust a paint-filled sponge into a class mate’s eye. I can’t recall what led up to this attack or what followed, but I’m fairly sure she deserved it. Or, at least, that’s the feeling I recall now.
It’s not that I mind having had nothing dangerous or especially exciting happen to me when I was growing up. I have a lively imagination. I write and improvise. I read books, watch films, listen to other people’s stories. And, thank God, I still have my short-term memory intact, for now.
In improv they say your ‘ordinary’ is your genius. I just wish my ‘ordinary’ was more memorable.